Kaantha Movie

🎬 The Emotional Challenge: Why Actors and All of Us Struggle to Feel

Today, I watched a film called Kaantha. It was a slow, deliberate movie, and it perfectly fit my mood. While I heard some complaints about the pace from the audience around me, I was utterly engrossed. There were several emotional moments between the hero and heroine that truly moved me. I felt the emotions resonate within me, and a profound thought suddenly flashed in my mind: How can anyone—human beings behind the label of "actor"—truly act those emotional scenes?

The Subconscious Dilemma

Our conscious mind clearly knows the difference between acting and living, but the deep subconscious mind doesn't grasp that distinction. When intense emotional stimuli occur, the subconscious simply releases the corresponding chemistry (hormones, neurotransmitters) into the bloodstream.

This creates a serious challenge for actors:

1. If they fully accept and embrace those emotions during a performance, they risk needing to process that intense emotional energy off-screen as well.

2. If they consistently try to reject or suppress the emotions during a performance, the subconscious mind can get confused. It might eventually stop releasing that emotional chemistry altogether.

3. The consequence? They may lose the ability to fully experience such emotions when they genuinely desire them in their personal lives—say, with their spouse.

   
   

Overall, it seems like a profoundly challenging career path. I am not an actor and may not be the right person to suggest a solution, but I believe simply being aware of this subconscious dynamic at least keeps the door open for a creative solution to emerge.

The Common Man's Crisis

The same problem, however, exists for the common man.

Considering the typical modern life path, the chance to be romantic without any fear often only arrives after marriage, which can happen only once a stable income is established. In most cases, this is in the late twenties. By that age, so many good, genuine romantic emotions would have arrived and been suppressed, ignored, or killed in some way. The same subconscious confusion prevails: the system designed to release that romantic chemistry may have collapsed or been significantly damaged.

The Marriage Miscalculation

Marriage consists of two vital aspects: the survival needs of the family and the relationship that thrives on love, affection, and intimacy.

In the current system, we have almost given up on one aspect and hugely prioritized the economics—the survival needs. The other portion, love, is simply assumed to be there.

The acts of survival (saving, investing, career building) can, to a degree, be postponed. But the emotions of love cannot. If we don't attend to them when they arrive and with whom they arrive, they can be gone forever. Crucially, economics must not be a factor when choosing a person to love. True connection, which is the foundation of love, can only be felt when something deep within the Soul resonates with another. This connection transcends beauty, wealth, or any other visible riches. It is a matter of the Heart, not the calculating Mind, and therefore cannot be articulated in words. Making a mistake here leads to a lifelong struggle, causing profound personal dissatisfaction while also making those tied to you suffer. Furthermore, societal expectations and legal systems often prevent one from seeking that necessary, deeper connection elsewhere.

We may eventually marry after settling in life, but those healthy, spontaneous emotions may have vanished or remain only in a limited capacity. Survival is fundamentally needed so we have the opportunity to experience love and other great emotions.

But what is the point of survival when we have lost or reduced the ability to truly feel those emotions?

Appendix

To ensure a clear understanding of the concepts discussed in this article, here are my personal definitions for The Soul, The Heart, and the two facets of The Mind.

❤️ The Soul: Our Deepest State of Being

The Soul is simply the state of being that we feel drawn to most deeply. For me, this is the experience of love in its purest form. While I can connect with nature, the connection with genuine human beings is richer, reaching its peak with a woman, me being a man. For others, it may be prosperity, power, art and it varies.

The key is that the entire life is not tied to one state of being. It may shift to a higher or lower state over time.

• In a continuous process, we "die" to one state of being and are "born" into another.

• This means we may die and take birth many times within a single lifetime, and finally, to another physical body when the chosen state of being is not compatible or any more supported by existing physical body.

🧭 The Heart: The Soul's Guide

I see the Heart as the part of us that guides in fulfilling the desires of the Soul by creating feelings—some gentle and soothing, and others tough or uncomfortable. If I make my choices by listening to my heart, trusting those feelings (and choosing soothing ones) to lead me, I find myself arriving at what my Soul truly wants much more easily. Following the heart isn't just the shortcut; it makes the whole journey lighter and full of joy.

🧠 The Mind: Two Powerful Facets

1. The Conscious Mind

The Conscious Mind is the portion of us that developed since the birth of the body. It is shaped and molded entirely based on our interactions with: Parents and family, Education and media, Society in general

2. The Subconscious Mind

The Subconscious Mind is the portion of us that is working behind the functioning of our body and the entire universe. To re-iterate: it is the driving force behind the current state of the entire universe not just your body. This means if you can successfully reprogram your Subconscious Mind, you will effectively change the entire universe, not just your body or personal reality.