Couples war

I observed two contrasting viewpoints during a heated discussion between a couple.

The first side emphasized financial stability and spending quality time with family for inner peace. They believed in balancing work and family harmoniously.

The second side stressed the significance of individual talents, believing that everyone has a unique gift from God that should be expressed. They argued that relationships should support and encourage each other’s abilities for personal growth, which ultimately brings happiness and peace.

The first side did not recognize the value of uniqueness bestowed by God and believed it should be sacrificed for the sake of family, prioritizing the family above all else. It is primarily focusing on survival. The second side felt that their life was hijacked and they had no time to express themselves, which they enjoyed the most.

One side focuses too much on survival while the other side focuses on achieving something through self-expression. It doesn’t make sense to survive just for the sake of survival. It is not feasible to achieve anything without surviving. We need to survive in order to accomplish something. Take a moment to reflect on what you have achieved by surviving for so long. If you don’t have an answer, it’s time to find a balance between survival and achievement.

ఒక మనిషిని ఒక మనిషిగా గౌరవించు (Honor a person as a person)

In my opinion, respecting oneself and equally respecting other will be the starting point for the solution to occur. Once this is established in mind, thoughts would not take sides as they include the necessities of both. This will eventually result in an innovative solution. This obviously requires some change from both sides, which is the hardest of the hardest thing to achieve. Even a beggar may resist change, even if it has the potential to make him rich. Resistance to change is the primary reason for the poor often remaining poor, but not the oppression of the rich. This should be the primary reason, even for couples to struggle for the long term.

I also observe, most of the population aligns with the first side’s viewpoint, while the second viewpoint is held by a small minority. This distinction becomes obvious when observing a crowd, with the common man representing the first viewpoint often settling as employees and artists, industrialists, politicians, scientists, philosophers, and others representing the second viewpoint often settling as self employed or employers. Both viewpoints are necessary for the world to sustain itself.

Why God would have created such a messy couple?

God, being all-knowing, understands that when a couple comprises one person from the first side and another from the second side, it will inevitably lead to an incredibly messy situation. However, he not only recognizes their current state but also envisions their potential to evolve and integrate. In the end, what the world truly requires is the seamless integration of diverse perspectives among billions of people just like seamless integration exists among trillions of cells in our body. By doing so, the world can benefit from the abundance of unique talents and their expressions, resulting in a magnificent sight akin to a garden adorned with an array of vibrant flowers. Through billions of couples, he is training billions of people all at once, with each couple a different story.

Solution lies in respecting each other than taking sides arguing with each other or resorting to breaking up. The evolution of mindset, which involves integrating with one another, is the key and it is crucial for the world to sustain itself. For this reason, God would have brought two different individuals together and guide them through a transformative journey in order to achieve this evolution. Compromise, suppression or the sacrifice is not the solution which is obvious as all of them ultimately lead to chronic diseases resulting in death. Evolving from the current state is the solution. The more we resist to this evolution, our struggles will only intensify.